- My breathing, reading, writing, teaching, singing, coffee-drinking self. I was going to put Maybelle first on the list, but I reminded myself of the oxygen mask philosophy that’s crucially important to my life and has been for more than a decade. You have to put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then on your child. If I’m not taking care of myself, I can’t help anyone else. Period.
Happy, happy, joy, joy!
- My daughter. I was going to list some of her many wonderful characteristics, but I realized her characteristics aren’t what “make me” love her. She doesn’t have to earn my love. I love her exactly as she is, and I’ll keep loving her, no matter what.
- My friends and family. I’ve blogged about them recently, so I’ll just point you there for a more detailed description. Xoxoxoxo!
- Sleeping. Is that an appropriate thing to put on this list? It’s true, though: when I wake up and see that it’s 6:00, not 4:27, I’m grateful. That means the day gets to start, and I don’t have to lie in bed thinking thinking thinking the toxic 4am thoughts that refuse to be rational and often fill me with adrenaline. Okay, that wasn’t a great gratitude item—that seems more like a “Let’s get rid of this phenomenon!” item. Moving on to a more appropriate gratitude item...
- Looking backward and forward. I'm grateful that I'm in a place right now of looking backward and forward in my life. I've moved into this dramatic new phase. In some ways it feels like adolescence--that kind of uncertainty and possibility. But in adolescence I wasn't reflecting on the past, what I'd experienced and what I'd learned, what patterns I'd established and which ones I wanted to let go of, and I'm certainly doing that right now. I don't yet have clarity on a lot of crucial issues. It is, to quote myself from an earlier post, a fabulous mess, and I'm going to do my best to accept and be grateful for that.
- Silly. This is Maybelle's highest compliment, and I do like it. It helps to nudge me in a different direction than the direction I'm often going.